been awhile since i updated. My parents are on vacation. they went to visit my grandpa. they got some news not from HIM but from Gloria his girlfriend. I guess they found cancer in his prostate. My mom doesn't know much and I guess he has a doc appointment the 30th and my mom did ask Gloria to call her and tell her what the doc says.
My grandpa is already saying that there is nothing that can be done and stuff my mom thinks that is because of what happened when they found cancer with my grandma.
but by the time they found it with her it had spread and there was really nothing they could do.
I am hoping for the best of course. i don't always get along with my gramps but he's still my gramps ya know. this is the grandfather that has been there for me all my life unlike my mom's dad.
as far as i know my grandpa still hasn't told my parents anything about the cancer and the only information has come from Gloria.

I did get other news my cousin cecilie was arrested for prostitution... this is the cousin i have written about before and there is a tag so you can read about when she was here before (here's the link http://anya1976.livejournal.com/tag/cecilie+drama ) I have to say i am not shocked that she's following in the footsteps of her crackwhore mother. I had hopes my cousin annette would clean her shit up but she obviously likes being a crackwhore.

I found out my Aunt (my dad's sister) and as far as i know only two of my older cousins are coming up here.
one(Carol) I have no problem with the other(Michelle) started a fight with me the last time she was here about 5 years ago.
Michelle stood in my kitchen screaming at me saying it was MY fault her family had a bad time in chicago. and it was MY fault she didn't get to visit with HER Uncle Tom (my dad) *uuum she made no attempt to do anything with my dad when he was home in the afternoons*
well they only came here for a free fucking place to stay they had no intention of visiting with us.
this was also confirmed by her daughter Brandee who felt the need to IM me and try to insult me and make sure she told me that was the ONLY reason they lowered themselves and stayed at OUR house.
After that my mom told my dad she didn't want these people in her house ever again.

I guess my aunt cookie got a 25ft RV and they are coming up here. I am not a happy camper.
My mother is not a happy camper.
For one they are coming this weekend or whatever well we are busy this weekend and already have people staying here (my aunt wants to know where she can park this RV my mom said not in OUR driveway).
Friday we are having the baby shower and now saturday we are having wings which means more people in our house.
who knows when they are showing up. My mom is pissed off like nobody's business.
I guess my Aunt just said they were coming without even asking him about it first. My father does not know how to tell them no. But let me ask him something and he says no right away go fuckin figure.

The last time Michelle and Brandee were here (not sure brandee is coming) but brandee stole stuff out of my mothers make up bag.
and she stole my tampons. Ok it's just tampons but this bitch decided to steal them.
My mother has said after they were here they were NEVER allowed back into this house.

I always stuck up for my cousins. all my life i'd get upset when i heard my mom say bad crap about them and i'd stick up for them.
after Michelle blew up at me I changed my tune. I have no respect for her or her mooch ass family. I would be glad if i never heard from these fuckers again. Actually i would welcome that.
My cousin annette is a crack whore and her daughter cecile is following in her footsteps I posted about cec b4 in the "cecilie drama"
These people are fucking worthless. honestly I never EVER thought i would ever say that about them they are my older cousins and i always looked up to them. I practically idolized them when i was young even though they got me in trouble had me smoke cigs so i wouldn't tell on them anymore Michelle was the first person to get me high when i was like 11 or 12.

I was so looking forward to thanksgiving and everything but this puts a damper on the whole thing. Not know when these assholes are going to show up.

She's gone.

she left my house in a cab around 4:45pm which didn't leave much time to catch her plane at 6pm (if you add up traffic and then changing her ticket)
but now she is out of our hair. I am still feeling very tense and stressed. (i have a cold sore from the stress so now i am doublely not happy i hate cold sores so sorry folks there will be no kissing)

just wanted to update you my blog readers (i'm sure there aren't many of you but i'm sure a few of my friends read this)

well she says she wants to leave. well it's 3pm the next flight out is at like4 so she's missing the flight.
my mom even offered to give her cab fare so she could get to the airport.
so at this point who knows what's going on.
hey if she wants to leave we aren't going to stop her.
we dont need to deal with teenage drama and if she wants to go home more power to her. It'll be don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya.
honestly she didn't even give being here a chance. it was all fine and dandy saturday we had a good time when we went to dinner and everything. then she sneaks out gets in trouble and wants to go home.
hey when ya sneak out there ARE consequences.
She is a child and she is being treated like a child. My mom and dad are treating her like they treated us when we were 15 for her to expect to be treated like an adult is asinine since she is NOT an adult.
She is way too immature to make adult decisions no matter how mature she may act. (believe me i was one of those who were more mature for my age but i still made 15 year old mistakes got in trouble and learned from them).
where she lives there are no concequences for her actions. she does whatever whenever. that's not how it is here.

i am at a loss. I guess i will write more later, and if something else develops i am sure i will end up writing about it.

Well i guess taking her cellphone didn't do any good.... she was using our housephone to call all over creation.

My dad had set up our phone when we were teenagers that u flip a switch in my parents bedroom that our phone line is shut off. (it came in handy when we were teenagers they'd shut the phone off at like midnight or something even if we were ON the phone)
my mom said our phone will stay off until she leaves so any family members or people who need us will have to call our cellphones.
our house phone recently added long distance we didn't have it for the longest time cus we didn't need it and our phone package changed and long distance was added. I guess she found that out pretty quickly cus she was calling everyone.
So now our phone will stay off and anyone who matters will call our cellphones to get in touch with us.

Well she has one more chance and she's being sent home.
My aunt called me and she said that she wasn't going to listen and she was going to do what she wants to do. Well that crap don't fly here. that's not how this household works.

I guess she noticed our phone being off cus she did ask what "no line" meant on the cordless phones i told her that my dad told me to turn off the phone.
I'm sure I'll end up being the bad guy here. But after what she pulled last night she thinks she's going to be rewarded? she's outta her fuckin tree.
I am sure i will be posting so much more about this in the next few hours/days/minutes lol since more crap just keeps happening.

well to follow up the other posts.....

Cecilie ended up sneakingout of the house at 1am with some guys i don't know and have never met.
She got home a little b4 4am. Nice huh.

I am extremely pissed off. She was out drinking with these people. well she is now grounded and her cellphone is now ours for the remainder of her stay. If she needs to talk to her grandma she can use my cellphone or her grandma can call here to talk to her. and she has some new rules to follow. She ended up calling her grandma when she got back here she knew she was busted and she wanted me to come out and get her. Well that would have been a mistake cus i would have awakened the whole neighborhood. so i told my aunt to have her knock on the door to be let in. Hey she snuck out alone why should i go get her when she was coming back in?

it's now 5am and i am still too pissed off to sleep.
When i was her age i was too scared of my parents to even think about sneaking out. (and i had a key to get in the house, she has no key so she had left our door open so she could get back in... well after she left i promptly locked the door so she would have to see SOMEONE to get back in the house)
I would have thought that after a week here she would realize that this house is not like her home in fla. We have rules here and it's not a free for all.

She has no one to blame for this but herself. I spent the week hanging out with her and had some respect for her. well all that has changed. I was going to take her to the zoo and take her to the movies while she was here but all that has changed. (well she's grounded for a week anyway now) but i will not be doing her any favors until she regains that respect. I didn't want to treat her like a 2 year old but after her leaving today twice without telling anyone(and she had her phone with her she could have called and told me what was going on... well when she snuck out she turned her phone off... hhm wonder why *eyeroll*) it looks like she doesn't respond well to being treated like an adult.
I realize that my brothers and i were not raised like she has been, and it IS a totally different world than she is used to BUT she is in our home and she WILL have to abide by our rules WE are the ones responsible for her.
My dad told her she had better apologize to me for what she did, so she said she was sorry... I'm not sure how much she actually meant it besides her being upset she was busted, but i just said "ok" if i would have said more i'd have ended up yelling and i wasn't going to do that. This is my dad's department he is going to be the heavy not me.
I feel more betrayed more than anything else. I've tried my best to make this as much her home as it was ours. I've told her to relax and get comfortable. I've wanted to have this a positive environment. I realize it may be boring for a 15 year old who knows no one. There is nothing i can do about that since i am 29 and not on the go like i used to be. I know at 15 i was never home (until it was my curfew, but i still made it home every night ON TIME without sneaking out)
My parents were very cool and still are. once we turned 18 we had no curfew, they've only asked that if we weren't going to be home that we let them know and that if we were drinking not to drive. To this day we make sure we at least tell people where we are going and if we are going to be home or not. Not that we "have" to but we do it out of common courtisy.
My aunt had called me after my dad had called her to tell her that Cec had snuck out. So I talked to her for 45 mins. I told her i didn't want to be the bad guy and she told me that i had to be. But i did inform her that her cellphone would be taken so if she needed to talk to her she'd call the house or she could call my cellphone (which is always on)
She still has 3 weeks here I'd really hate for this to be like a prison sentence but it's going to be what she makes out of it and she just messed up in a major way.

Ok since i am now just repeating myself i will stop venting.
I guess i will lay down and try to get some sleep now.

to followup my other post from today. Cecilie ended up leaving without telling anyone. I guess my neighbors daughter had come over and was talkin to cec so she went over to their house then a friend had come over and she left with them without telling anyone here. well she's been gone for at least 4 hrs. i am so pissed off she left the door unlocked if i had have fallen asleep or something my house would be wide open. her leaving without telling anyone is unacceptable.
She is underage and in OUR care. her excuse was i was in my bedroom. well um normally people knock on the door if they have something to say. AND she has my cellphone # all she had to do was call from 4 houses down if she didn't want to walk here and tell me. at the time of her leaving i was thinking about scraping up a few bucks to take her out for ice cream when i filled up my car. well i doubt i will be doing anything like that in the near future.

Today is my brother's birthday. so last night we all went out to dinner. which was good at least we did something. well today cecilie is saying she's bored. well with gas prices being INSANE (still) i just don't have the cash to just drive around aimlessly. I don't and i am not wasting my gas just driving around to amuse her, sorry not gonna happen. i have like 10 bucks in gas that has to last me til next week.

as i have said b4 i am a homebody i don't have to go go go like she's used to. she's never home (well cus her homelife isn't the greatest and when you don't go to school there is no reason to be home i guess).
if she is going to constantly say she's bored this is going to be a loooooooooooong 3 more weeks.
well during a few months out of the year the zoo near me has 2 days a week that are free (for general admission) so i suggested that we can go one of those days we are planning on going to the movies while she's here. but i don't have the money for entertaining her the whole time she's here. that's just not gonna happen.

*sigh*
i think i need a nap.

everything is better today. I got up and then had to wake my dad up at10am so we could take my car into the shop. so we (my dad me and cec) took my car then left from there to go to joliet to the boat so my dad could pick up a free gift. then we had lunch at the boat and came home.
So far everything is good. Cec took her meds at lunch since she has to take them with food. then we drove home everyone stuffed to the gills. there was no attitude today.
but like i said today has gone well so far. it's only about 3pm so things could get worse. but at the moment life is good.... i just want to take a nap all that food has made me sleepy!!!

ok today was interesting.
as you all who read my blog know i do take care of my grandma some days. and i have to get up very very early in the morning to be there. Well today since my cousin is here in chicago she had to come with me. My mom didn't want her to be alone here all day. I had told her this b4 that she would have to go with me and i would be getting her up b4 6am.
well this morning i got up took my shower and figured i'd let her sleep a little longer so i TRIED waking her up at 10 to 6am. i figured since we didn't have to leave til 6:15 that it would be long enough to wash up clean teeth and change clothes. well i went down and tried to get her up. she rolled over and muttered something so i went back upstairs and gave her a couple more mins. well i came back down she said i've never gotten up this early in my life so i said well there is a first for everything.
and then she said as i was going back upstairs if i was at home i could sleep all day... and to that i said well you aren't at home so she said so i've noticed and something about her wanting to go home i said that could be arranged. and went back upstairs so she put pants on and proceeded to get on the phone and make phone calls LOUDLY (mind you my brother's bedroom is downstairs next to the family area where the pull out couch is, where she's sleeping at the moment, and he's sleeping. our extra room hasn't even been started to be put together) so it's now 5 after 6am and i go downstairs and say c'mon cec we have to go she's still bitching into the phone and not moving. so i go back upstairs to get the rest of my stuff for the day ready cus i have better shit to do than babysit and make sure she gets off her ass.
well at 10 after i go down and say C'mon i want to leave in 5 mins. to that she says i have to brush my teeth (she's STILL on the phone) i go back upstairs she never comes upstairs and is STILL on the phone even more loud now. since i can hear her up the stairs talking. so now it's 20 after and still nothing i tell her LET'S GO, I HAVE TO LEAVE. so it's now 25 after and she walks up the stairs and has a cigarette and sits outside i grab my stuff walk out lock the door and say lets go she says i can't smoke in the car so i said i don't care get in the car. so now it's late and i am late and not happy. i am speeding off to myaunts house and not saying two words to her i am just watcing the road and the clock.
she tried t omake some conversation i think i just said uh huh and yea and that was it. well needless to say i was at least 10 mins late. My aunt wasn't at home so i don't know how long my grandma was alone which she really should not be left alone at ALL. my aunt is in the process of packing and moving so there really isnt much in her house she has a couch and a loveseat upstairs so we get in i check on gram who is thankfully still sleeping. she said well what do i do i said um sit down and get comfortable. well she proceeds to go to sleep and slept til 2:30 this afternoon.

I am still pretty angry about this morning. from what i understood (from my brother whom she woke up screaming in the morning on the phone) that she wanted to go home no matter what it took. she had already called my aunt twice yesterday saying there was nothing to do in this town. well i live like 20 mins from downtown chicago while maybe my town next door to the airport is a little boring but i can assure you where i live is pretty close to pretty much everything goin on.

I am not here to be her 24 hr entertainment. I am 29 years old i don't have to entertain a 15 year old kid constantly. if she can't read a book watch some tv or whatever then that's her problem. we aren't here to cater to her. we understand it's gong to take some adjustment on all of our parts. as only adults living here for the longest time everyone does their own thing. I am a homebody i spend time in my room watching tv, chatting online and reading. My mom is a homebody too but she spends her time in the living room she does her stuff she does her laundry and watches her tv shows.

my brother is hardly ever home. and my dad works nights so he's not home at night til the weekends.

If things progress like this she will be going home very early. My mom had even said she would pay for the ticket change herself if she had to.

My family in fla is really messed up (cec's mom and her mom's sister namely) They are my cousins but i feel really nothing but pity for them. Cec's mom is a drug addict who cec is living with at the moment (who she shouldn't be living with she should be living with my aunt who has legal custody of her) and a couple of my other cousins in fla cec's aunt and cousin i had issues with when they visited last year after thanksgiving. so now i have no use for those two ever again. in my eyes i could care less about them. they did things they shouldn't have done, so even my mother wants nothing to do with them ever again. so coming from those kinds of role models you can see where this kid might have issues adjusting to a normal family yanno.

I just don't know what to do cus i was the one who always stuck up for my family down there. and after my experiance last year i just have lost all faith in them. cus to me it was like they were biting the hand that always supported them and stuck up for them.

i am sure i will keep ya'll updated on what happens in the next few weeks since this is one of the very few outlets i do have for venting.

ok my cousin is here and is now a member of the immediate family for a month (or longer at this point who knows if it will be pushed further). My dad and I picked her up from the airport. with tons of luggage (but then if i was staying for a month i probably would have a ton of crap too). Since the extra bedroom isn't ready she's sleeping in the basement on the pullout couch in our family room (or my brothers wardrobe area, when no one is staying here). Hopefully the room will be at least furnished b4 she leaves cus i know my mom wants to get stuff for it, she wanted furnature for it b4 Cecilie came here but alas that did not happen.
It's gonna take a bit for her to adjust to a "normal" household where we actually have dinner on the table every night at 5pm and eat as a family. and she WILL have a curfew while she is here. Not sure what time it will be but I did make sure to tell her she would have one.
OK i was debating on going back to sleep but at this point i probably wont. since i have to get up early tomorrow it's better to actually be tired at a decent hour tonight...