Anya1976 (anya1976) wrote,

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I saw this make the rounds thru tumblr and thought I'd share

“My Mum died suddenly on September 4th, 2006

After she died, I realized how much she’d been shielding from my father’s mental state.

He doesn’t have alzheimers, but he has no short - term memory, and is often lost.

I took him to the funeral, but when we got home, he kept asking me every 15 minutes where my mother was. I had to explain over and over again, that she had died.

This was shocking news to him.

Why had no one told him?
Why hadn’t I taken him to the funeral?
Why hadn’t he visted her in the hospital?

He had no memory of these events.

After awhile, I realized I couldn’t keep telling him that his wife had died. He didn’t remember, and it was killing both of us, to constantly re-live her death.

I decided to tell him she’d gone to Paris, to take care of her brother, who was sick.

And that’s where she is now.

This is a journal.

An ongoing record of my father, and of our relationship.

For whatever days we have left together.

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